In Part 1 of the Appreciating Caregivers series, we discussed the different roles caregivers take on. We recognized that Caregivers step up in many ways to support and care for cancer patients and their families. Many of you earn the title of "Superhero" each day for the ways you step up. No matter which areas you have stepped up to assist with, we see you. We are amazed by you, and we appreciate you.
But even superheroes need to have a plan to care for themselves! In this article, we will look at 4 strategies that can help caregivers care for their own physical health. The National Cancer Institute (NCI) reminds us of the importance of staying healthy and strong even as you take on the added responsibilities of caring for your loved one battling cancer.
1. Remember to relax.
As you take on extra roles and responsibilities, you may feel like you "don't have time" to step away. In fact, for your physical health, you cannot afford to skip built-in moments of relaxation. Schedule a power nap. A 15–30-minute nap can re-energize you and help you get through your marathon list of chores or appointments for the day. If naps aren't for you, use that 15-30- minute block to take a leisurely walk in nature, do a few moments of yoga, or even practice meditation. The key is that whatever you choose gives you a break and, ideally, changes your physical location (even if it is only a different room). Hence, your mind, emotions, and body feel rested and refreshed.
2. Remember to connect with your support network.
Reach out to your own support network. These are people you trust. People who are willing to listen and be non-judgmental. People who will stop by and leave your favorite treat on the front porch, call you from the driveway, and wave as you pick up your goody bag and return inside. Your support network will find ways to be available even in the midst of chaos! You will need their kindness, insight, and yes, help as you go forward. So make the call, send a text, and find time to reconnect with those who know you best and want to support you.
3. Request help.
This is a difficult step for many of us. We want to be the helper, not "impose on others." But the truth is, just as your loved ones need your help, you will need the help of others. The key is to recognize what help you need and to ask for specific assistance. If you need help with carpool, ask, "Will you pick up the children on Wednesday this week?" If you need to cut down on trips to the grocery store or pharmacy, then ask, "Will you pick up these three items from the grocery store today? Or ask if your hometown pharmacy has delivery service. No one, and I mean NO ONE, expects you to do it all. Often, individuals don't know how to help and don't want to burden you with questions. I believe you will be pleasantly surprised by how many people are willing to help if they know the specific need. Request help.
4. Routines are important.
Routines are important for our physical health. A consistent bedtime and wake schedule are beneficial and support your physical health in many ways, from improved cognition to a supported immune system and even a more positive outlook. Establish consistent meal times- or at least a window of time that you generally eat your meals. Even the simple act of washing your face and brushing your teeth each night before bedtime can help alleviate stress. You may have days that are very different here and there, but a few simple routines will help.
We see your dedication, and we are grateful for all you do as a caregiver. Please let others support you, and give yourself space to make self-care a priority!
In Part Three we will explore other self-care strategies. I hope you will join us for the final blog of this series on Appreciating Caregivers
